Thank you all for your replies and explanations.
In the meantime I did additonal testings and found out that the reply is slightly different when I
accept a invitation "with comments". Even when I don't enter any comment with my accept then
the attached VCALENDAR file looks like this:
--=_mixed 92BE6F32ADA3DE27C1257D80003D0C1B_=
Content-Type: text/calendar; method="REPLY"; charset="UTF-8"
BEGIN:VCALENDAR
X-LOTUS-CHARSET:UTF-8
VERSION:2.0
PRODID:-//Lotus Development Corporation//NONSGML Notes 9.0.1//EN_S
METHOD:REPLY
BEGIN:VTIMEZONE
TZID:W. Europe
BEGIN:STANDARD
DTSTART:19501029T020000
TZOFFSETFROM:+0200
TZOFFSETTO:+0100
RRULE:FREQ=YEARLY;BYMINUTE=0;BYHOUR=2;BYDAY=-1SU;BYMONTH=10
END:STANDARD
BEGIN:DAYLIGHT
DTSTART:19500326T020000
TZOFFSETFROM:+0100
TZOFFSETTO:+0200
RRULE:FREQ=YEARLY;BYMINUTE=0;BYHOUR=2;BYDAY=-1SU;BYMONTH=3
END:DAYLIGHT
END:VTIMEZONE
BEGIN:VEVENT
DTSTART;TZID="W. Europe":20141029T123000
DTEND;TZID="W. Europe":20141029T133000
TRANSP:OPAQUE
DTSTAMP:20141029T110649Z
SEQUENCE:0
ATTACH:CID:FFFE__=4EBBF713DFAE8A8B8f9e8a93df938@
ATTENDEE;PARTSTAT=ACCEPTED;CN="Manfred Pausch/XXX/YYY/ZZZ"
;SENT-BY="mailto:Manfred.Pausch@our-domain.tld";RSVP=FALSE
:mailto:Manfred.Pausch@our-domain.tld
CLASS:PUBLIC
SUMMARY:test777
LOCATION:777
ORGANIZER;CN="InvitationSender":mailto:InvitationSender@external-domain.tld
UID:040000008200E00074C5B7101A82E008000000009D22292F68F3CF01000000000000000010000000DAF465C4074C9E4598846727B52E8EC8
X-LOTUS-UPDATE-SEQ:1
X-LOTUS-NOTESVERSION:2
X-LOTUS-NOTICETYPE:A
X-LOTUS-APPTTYPE:3
X-LOTUS-CHILD-UID:92BE6F32ADA3DE27C1257D80003D0C1B
END:VEVENT
END:VCALENDAR
--=_mixed 92BE6F32ADA3DE27C1257D80003D0C1B_=--
This can be processed by the external Exchange server and the external user sees the accept in his calendar.
For me this is not a nice solution but will be good as workaround for the next few months until we have to migrate to Exchange :-\